Needing reassurance is not a character flaw, it's a need, and needs are only a problem when they can't be spoken. The thing that actually damages relationships isn't asking for reassurance — it's needing it and extracting it sideways for months instead.
You are not too much. Asking clearly once is a hundred times lighter than needing it constantly and never saying so.
If you can say it in one plain sentence without a preamble apologising for it, it isn't too much.
“i'm feeling a bit unsure this week — could you tell me where we're at?”
“reassurance top-up requested 🥺 no explanation available”
“i need to hear that you're in this. can you tell me that?”
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