The results
Mostly A’s — You have a floor, and he clears it. You’ve got a floor and you watch whether he clears it. That isn’t high maintenance, it’s a standard. Keep judging him on plans rather than pleasantries.
Mostly B’s — You’re impressed by the minimum. The test is simple: would you be impressed if a friend described this to you? If not, you’re applauding the baseline. Ask for one specific thing this week.
Mostly C’s — You count attention as effort. Attention that costs him nothing tells you nothing. Views, likes and midnight texts aren’t effort. Count only what costs him time.
Mostly D’s — You ask for nothing at all. You’ve made yourself very easy to under-serve. Try one concrete request — a day, a plan, a call — instead of hoping he notices on his own.