Self-abandonment rarely feels like a sacrifice while it's happening — it feels like priorities shifting. You notice it later, in the friends you've stopped texting and the things you used to do. The tell is that your mood now runs entirely on someone else's input.
It doesn't mean you love too much or you're 'too much'. It means your attention has pooled in one place and needs redistributing.
Name three things you did regularly before this started. How many have you done in the last two weeks?
“(no text needed. message a friend you've gone quiet on instead. today.)”
“(reclaim one hobby. any hobby. the man will survive it.)”
“i've let this take up too much of my week and i'm rebalancing a bit.”
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