Breadcrumbing is attention delivered at exactly the interval that stops you leaving. It usually isn't a calculated strategy — it's someone who doesn't want you but doesn't want to lose you either, resolving that by giving you the smallest possible amount. The effect is the same whether or not he means it.
It's not proof he secretly loves you and is scared. That story keeps more people stuck than any other in this app.
The rhythm gives it away: contact arrives right when you're about to give up, and stops as soon as you're back. Notice the timing, not the words.
“i've realised i want more consistency than this. i think i need to step back.”
“i'm going to need more than a crumb, respectfully”
“this only picks up when i pull away. i'm not doing that anymore.”
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